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The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

Sep 15, 2023

On today's episode I chat again with Leslie Petruk, IFSI Lead Trainer, who wrote a chapter in the Altogether Us book entitled, "IFS and Parenting: Becoming an In-sightful Parent."

We jump right in as Leslie and I talk 'off mic' about all things parenting, and I needed to include it in the episode for you! 

We talk about:

  • Parts who make meaning out of our kid's behaviors
  • Stages on development; Loss when kids grown older
  • "We can only feel Joy at the depth we have felt pain."- true in parenting
  • Difficulty with separating out what is MINE and what is THEIRS
  • Leading from a Self led place and not an Activated Parts place

She talks briefly about acronyms she describes in the book chapter:

  • S.H.U.V. - how we treat out Inner and External 'kids'
  • P.A.U.S.E.- what we all need to have on our Fridge!

To find out more about Leslie go to: Home - The Stone Center – Charlotte, NCThe Stone Center – Charlotte, NC (


Purchase "Altogether Us" here:  Altogether Us: Integrating the IFS Model with Key Modalities, Communities, and Trends: Riemersma, Jenna, Schwartz, Dr. Richard: 9781734958423: Books

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Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start. You can purchase it here: The One Inside: 30 Days To Your Authentic Self: Sollenberger, Tammy: 9780967688756: Books or wherever books are sold.

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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created new music. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram.