May 7, 2021
On todays episode, I chat with Nic Wildes about 'Is Gender a
Part?' Nic spoke on this topic at the 2018 IFS Annual Conference
and that is where we met -also when I decided my next step was to
start a podcast :)
Nic Wildes, LMHC
(Pronouns: they/them/theirs) is a White queer nonbinary Certified
IFS therapist based in the Boston area. They are in private
practice and are co-director of SAYFTEE, a
group practice devoted
to working with LGBTQI+ people and their loved ones. Nic is
especially passionate about how IFS can be used to empower queer,
transgender, nonbinary, and gender
Nic offers individual
and group consultation. They have recently started IFS consultation
groups for those wanting to connect and learn in LGBTQI+ affinity.
SAYFTEE, their group practice, is also
a great resource for
LGBTQI+ people, families and clinicians wanting more connection.
SAYFTEE is currently expanding their training capacity to support
more folks providing gender affirming care and have a lot they are
doing to create community locally.
Nic is also looking to
connect and build community with other trans, nonbinary, and gender
expansive IFS therapists /practitioners. If this applies to you,
they would love to hear from you.
We talk -Nic is wise and I ramble...- about:
All of our own experiences of gender
"Who can I be in what spaces"
Gender messages we ALL get as kids
Laws and Violence against Transgender women
Pronouns (The trauma of being misrecognized)
Trans Visibility (In History and Movies)
Camp for kids
Get curious about our own experience with gender
'There is something wrong with me.'
Nic can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
To find out more about Nic and the meditation we discuss go
Resources | Nic
The camp info:
Camp Aranu'tiq of Harbor
Camps for Transgender Youth (camparanutiq.org)
The podcast we talk about:
The Laverne Cox Show: Moving Beyond the Gender Binary w/ ALOK on
The documentary, Disclosure:
THE FILM —
DISCLOSURE: Documentary by Sam Feder and Amy Scholder
Their Group Practice:
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